Fear of Success: What will happen if you succeed?

He said to me, ‘if you’re going to fail, fail fast.’ Have you heard this line before? I’m sure you have and if not probably some variation. Everyone is the room agreed with him. They’d made a mistake. The project tanked. Time to move on.

He said to me, ‘if you’re going to fail, fail fast.’ Have you heard this line before? I’m sure you have and if not probably some variation. Everyone is the room agreed with him. They’d made a mistake. The project tanked. Time to move on.
Fear of Success: What will happen if you succeed?

Why Fear of Success Is Stronger Than Fear of Failure

“The fear of success is a very unique issue that arises when you are genuinely creating change and moving forward in your life,” says Ti Caine, a hypnotherapist and life coach based in Sherman Oaks, California. “The fear of success is very real because the future is real-we’re all heading there-and what we imagine for our future has an enormous influence on us.”
With that in mind, read the line again. ‘If you’re going to fail, fail fast.’

  • What benefit if there to you, your company and your career is you adopt this attitude. Why fail fast?
  • If you fail fast you over look the mistakes you’ve made.
  • If you fail fast and don’t recognize the mistakes you’ve made, you’re likely to repeat them.
  • If you repeat your mistakes, you go in circles, never slowing down to see the blindspots, personal weaknesses and errors of judgments that encourage this thinking.

Let’s look at the alternatives.
If you fail slowly you:

  • Examine your mistakes,
  • Note where the mistakes first occurred and
  • Adjust your patterns to avoid repeating these mistakes.

Over the course of your career, which one is likely to make the biggest difference?
Steve Pavlina asks “What will happen if you succeed? If you lose the weight… get the date… earn the promotion… start the business… get pregnant… quit smoking… become a millionaire… stretch yourself?“”
My interpretation is that we’re more anxious and scared of Success than Failure. Otherwise, why would we repeat the same patterns?
So, how do we change the cycle of behavior?
 
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Productivity: How To Make Friday Your Busiest Day

Friday is my busiest day. Most folks power down and go into weekend mode. Not here! Ask yourself, ‘why do I go down a gear on Friday?’, ‘How does this benefit my career?’ Ok, let’s be honest. We do this because others do it. Right? This is a high-risk way to manage your career. You’re letting others determine how you behave. And it damages your career in many, many ways. Here’s an alternative approach.

Friday is my busiest day. Most folks power down and go into weekend mode. Not here! Ask yourself, ‘why do I go down a gear on Friday?’, ‘How does this benefit my career?’ Ok, let’s be honest. We do this because others do it. Right? This is a high-risk way to manage your career. You’re letting others determine how you behave. And it damages your career in many, many ways. Here’s an alternative approach.

How to make Friday your busiest day and reap the rewards

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7 Mistakes to avoid:

  1. Don’t fill your day with low-impact tasks.
  2. Don’t get pulled into fluffy things that you don’t really want to.
  3. Don’t do project meetings when you know it will kill your whole morning.
  4. Don’t go to long lunches.
  5. Don’t leave early.
  6. Don’t waste time studying analytics, trends, click-thrus etc… you know what they’ll say, don’t you?
  7. Not Saying NO enough.

Do this instead.
You’ll get more success if you:

  1. Plan with intention – Use Friday to plan the entire week ahead. Spend at least 2 hours on this. Planning is decision making. When you plan, you make decisions.
  2. Get Ready for Monday – planning on Friday lets you hit the ground running on Monday. See the difference? You’re already a step ahead of everyone else.
  3. Do Strategic Meetings Only – Book meetings with key contacts on Friday. Most will say Yes. They’re in down mode, so they’re easy to arrange.
  4. Find Like-minded people – Connect with people that have the same values as you. Look around the office and ask, ‘who’s killing time v who’s using it’. Link up with those doing it right.
  5. Do high impact tasks – disconnect from activities that suck the life out of you, your projects and your enjoyment in life.
  6. Share useful information – everyone wants ‘relevant’ information. Select the 5 pieces of useful information you’ve read during the week and circulate these.
  7. Authority – Establish yourself as someone who provides ‘useful’ and high value information not just cats doing ninja tricks.
  8. Stay late – when everyone is gone, you can get focused and do more work. Global clients will still be up. Call them. Chase them up. Your colleagues won’t. They’re gone, so now is your chance.

What’s going on here?
It’s about behavior.

  • It’s how others impact the way you behave and respond.
  • To succeed, in the way you want to succeed, you need to observe how others make you behave the way you do.
  • Admit it.
  • Put a plan in place to create your own blueprint for success.
  • Find ways to do this every day.
  • See where you fall down, where you can improve and what you’re doing right.
  • Keep at it.

Success is like developing a muscle. You have to train it, assess it, and increase it. Luckily, there are no short-cuts. If you persist, you’ll succeed. You have to!
What do you think?
Do you plan to make Friday’s the busiest day? What would change if you did?
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How To Find A 'Second' Reason To Do Something Important

When should I start my business? When will I have all the information I need to begin? Answer? Never. You have to start with what you have. In this video, I share a very smart observation that Rajesh Setty made about getting started in business. You don’t always need to have 4 legs to make a table; sometimes 3 will do. Confused? Watch the video.

When should I start my business? When will I have all the information I need to begin? Answer? Never. You have to start with what you have. In this video, I share a very smart observation that Rajesh Setty made about getting started in business. You don’t always need to have 4 legs to make a table; sometimes 3 will do. Confused? Watch the video.

Getting Things Done Now: How To Find A Second Reason To Do Anything Important

Getting Things Done: How To Find A Second Reason To Do Anything Important

Rajesh Setty gets it. To find a second reason to do anything important:
1. Remove the legs (reasons) for NOT pursuing your dreams. The more legs (reasons) you remove, easier it is to break the resistance (topple the table) to pursue the dream.
2. Start finding legs (reasons) for pursuing your passion. The more legs (reasons) you find, the stronger the conviction (table) to pursue the dream.
Taking up his point, my religious teacher once said to us, ‘it’s not the hand you’ve been dealt that matters, but how you play your hand.’
It’s your attitude towards setbacks, circumstances, friction and conflicts that matters. Approach these in the right way and you can see how to overcome these obstacles and get closer to your true goals.
Taking up his point, my religious teacher once said to us, ‘it’s not the hand you’ve been dealt that matters, but how you play your hand.’
It’s your attitude towards setbacks, circumstances, friction and conflicts that matters. Approach these in the right way and you can see how to overcome these obstacles and get closer to your true goals.
What do you think?
How do you work past your obstacles? What reasons do you use? What justifications do you see in your own thinking? Please share below.